One of the two most important areas concerning
psychics are accuracy and ethics, as most people judge you
instantly by these two factors. Understanding the basic
principals of ethics truly help if you want the challenging
commitment of mediumship to go smoothly. After some experience
with giving readings, most mediums sense that they are not
only a psychic reader, but also a grief counselor to some
degree. This is a wonderful opportunity for you to grow
spiritually and to minister to those in need, both here
and in spirit.. As God brings people together through us,
we as psychics do our best in making Love the purpose for
our contacting Spirit.
Medium ethics involves several concepts:
common sense, responsibility, accountability and The Golden
Rule. Most of the time if you listen to your heart, you
will do fine. We as psychics all hope for a joyous reunion
with those people we read for and it is wonderfully rewarding
when that is the case, but sometimes hard issues come out
during readings that can really set you off balance, if
you are not prepared. What I would like to address here
are the difficult readings, the ones that need your expertise
in diplomacy and tact.
As we all live real lives, spirit people
whom you contact may have had such problems in their past
such as abuse, drug addiction, crime, suicide, death by
accident and other serious issues that bring with it further
complications when we are asked to give a reading. If you
as a medium can smoothly handle a difficult reading where
there are problems without draining down your energy dramatically,
as well as clouding your accuracy, plus giving grief-counseling
, then you are achieving a higher
goal. If it sounds like you are performing several tasks
here at once, you are right! Those types of readings definitely
are worth the extra effort it takes, it’s just that you
want to be calm and peaceful afterwards without it taking
a major toll on you with your stamina
Take the time during a reading to sense just
where the conversation is going. If there is some negativity
coming through, use your discernment, so that with your
counseling skills involved, you will be able to make difficult
readings more therapeutic and beneficial to everyone involved
. Love and compassion is important, but it is also good
to stay somewhat neutral in our role as a “relay” between
the two, if you can, keeping a “professional attitude”.
Energy-wise, it takes more out of you trying to calm down
a readee when they are crying or upset. On the spirit level,
the spirit person you contact can also connect to you emotionally
if you are clair-sentient. Don’t let their emotions connect
with yours to the point that you start feeling a drain on
you. Our Heart Chakra can bring us further increasement
in force energy with Love coming through the Chakra
during a reading, however, if we connect too
deeply with the spirit’s or readee’s emotional level, then
we will start sensing a draining energy
coming out from our heart chakra instead, thwarting the
quality of the reading. Those of you
who are clair-sentient know about this, as their emotions
can blend in with your emotional state and the two
combined can mean that you, too, become upset.
I suggest that a “distancing” or “backing off a ways” helps
there.
I would like to suggest to those who are
just starting out with giving readings, to take the time
to read a good book on grief counseling.
They will have specifics on the skills needed to help you
with your confidence level. You see, with
experience you gain that much-needed confidence, but if
you have some background knowledge of grief counseling,
you’re just that much better off starting out.
Notice when a reading for someone changes
from a “general contact” reading of a relative to their
asking the relative for guidance. For
example, a readee asking their deceased relative about how
they should handle a personal problem,
like should they marry someone, breakup with someone, etc..
As this is highly up to the readee with this inquiry,
you can adjust your thoughts to become aware of the ethical
aspect so that you will retain your Highest and
Best Good perspective. Just because Spirits are up in Heaven
doesn’t mean that they are omniscient. So if the
old saying “If you really don’t want to know
the truth, don’t ask” isn’t in the readee’s mind and they
ask a very awkward question, remember
that choosing the right ethical words as an answer is important.
(If they had thought about it a little,
they probably would realize that it shouldn’t have been
mentioned.) Don’t hesitate to respond politely
declining to relay that question, such as “it wouldn’t be
in the best interests of the Spirit to be asking that”,
or “that is something that I don’t feel I
should be asking them, for Highest and Best Good.” Whatever
tactful phrase you come up with, try
to have it memorized or jotted down on a notepad handy just
so you don’t forget it when you most
need it. You could really get into a negative situation
with questions that shouldn’t be asked of Spirits.
Sometimes it is the Spirit who says something
to you that you feel best not to pass on to the readee,
so keep in the back of your mind that
can happen, too. People are people whether they are Spirits
or living in the flesh! If you can use
your mediumship much like a “filter” passing on what you
feel is Highest and Best Good for all concerned,
using a code of ethics as the filter, then
your readings will always be the best you can give. Also,
if there is any kind of doubt there
as to how the readee is interpreting the message, take the
time to clarify the issue, so that they won’t get
the wrong impression.
Sensing with your Heart Chakra is always
the best way to go. You tire less and you get the best reading
that way. Plus when you tune into your
Heart as well as your Third Eye, it literally opens up the
Divine Guidance “channel” for you so
that you are able to sense much better those issues previously
mentioned and you don’t drain down in vibrations
as quickly. Oftentimes, mediums give frequent readings online
and when they get through a number of them
consecutively they are very worn out. Draining the Hope
Chakra is what goes first, followed by the Heart
Chakra, and then if they continue when tiring,
the drain results in a burning sensation inside the Heart
Chakra. That causes the whole Chakra
system to feel depleted. It is best to end the reading when
you just start to feel worn and your
concentration ebbs. This is mentioned, as your Highest and
Best Good perspective needs to be always on a high
level with ethics the key; and when a medium tires, that
also can be when they could make an error of judgement.
Most of us will agree that we have chosen
to do mediumship to help ease the pain of those who have
been left behind, as well as those
who passed on, by being a “bridge” between the two worlds.
Keeping in mind the application of
ethics in mediumship will connect you with Spirit greater
than you ever thought, as “what goes around,
comes back around”, in a very good way! Being consistent
in your code of ethics in mediumship gets noticed
by Guides, and of course God, and He will bless you with
growth potential even beyond your own expectations,
rewarding you with increased knowingness that is well worth
the effort!
